"Despite what one might expect, given those characteristics – that geography, those circumstances – who I am as a person has made me seemingly oblivious to those perceived constraints," he says. Black, gay and heavyset in the South, he was raised by a single mother in a family of single mothers. Lamar, who now calls New York home, grew up in Montgomery, Ala. Do you speak Daddy," he asks, turning to the sunglassed toddler at his side.Īrchie responds yes, before asking her dad if he remembers the "Wheels on the Bus" and reminding him that she likes vanilla. "It's a specific language," says her dad, Diarra Lamar. Lamar, M.D., a single dad by choice, with his daughter Archie Madeleine Lamar at a park in New York, NY.Īt 2 1/2 years old, Archie is a precocious toddler with multi-colored bows adorning her hair and a vocabulary that belies her age. So I thought she'd be the future president," he says with a laugh.ĭr. And to me, that was very suitable for a kid that's just going to grow up in a warming planet, whose future is under jeopardy. "Her first name, Gaia, means, Mother Earth.
In 2021, in the throes of COVID, Bulbul welcomed his second daughter, Gaia Mine, with the same surrogacy partner. In 2019, his first daughter, Emi Jules, was born via surrogate. "If I'm going to be a parent, I should just try to find the shortest route at this point because, you know, it's not fair to the children that they have a geriatric parent. But the process for single people, particularly relatively older gay men, he says, was difficult. Cenk had both his daughters via the same surrogate using donor eggs and his sperm to make the embryos that were implanted. So I realized I was gay, but I was like scared, confused."Ĭenk takes Emi grocery shopping and then gets her ready for bed. "At that point in 1994, you didn't see many gays the campus. "The things that I was feeling as a young man, but I didn't know what they were because there weren't any public examples where I used to live in Turkey and even at Carnegie Mellon ," Bulbul says of his time exploring the internet while getting his masters degree in Pennsylvania. He came to the United States in 1994 – the early days of a tool that would help him, and countless others, understand the emotions for which they didn't yet have the words: the World Wide Web. NPR spoke to three men, single gay fathers, who chose to become dads via surrogacy, after years of coming to terms with their identities, their families, and the technological advances that have made journeys like this possible.Ĭenk Bulbul is originally from Turkey. Cenk had both his daughters via the same surrogate using donor eggs and his sperm to make the embryos that were implanted.įatherhood comes in many different forms, from the dads who are there from your first steps, to the ones you meet later in life. If you meet some eager blonde twink on grindr.Cenk Bulbul, a single dad by choice, with his youngest daughter Gaia Bulbul in New York, NY. I could have ruined that dudes life If anyone found out. Most men I meet talk a big game but no one has been able to fuck me the way that dude did. I think I've been chasing that high for a long time now. I left feeling this weird mix of excitement, shame, pride, and pure joy lol. Then he told me that I wasnt allowed to spend the night and I had to leave.
He came probably 6 times, and I literally could not stop sporting precum out of mine until I finally burst all over his floor. I dont know how I was able to keep up with this man for my first time. As soon as that first big uncut cock touched my lips I was like yup. Grabbing my cock, spreading my ass, and then he turned he back to face him, placed both hands on my shoulders, forced me to my knees, and pulled my head into his crotch and said. When I walked into his house, he told me to strip and then he started examining me from every angle. I had told him prior to meeting that I wanted him to dominate me. I met him in a chat room and lied about my age.